How do you describe your relationship with Allah — is it something you actively work on?

How consistent are you with your five daily prayers? What gets in the way?

How do you feel when you miss salah — is it something that troubles you?

What is your relationship with the Quran — do you recite it regularly?

Which madhab (school of thought) do you follow, and how firm is that for you?

How important is it to you that your spouse shares your level of religious practice?

What role do you want religion to play in your home day-to-day?

How do you handle periods of low iman or spiritual difficulty?

What Islamic practices are non-negotiable for you in a household?

How do you want to grow spiritually as a couple — are there practices you'd like to do together?

How do you feel about your children being raised within a specific madhab or tradition?

Do you observe any voluntary fasts, night prayers, or other nafl ibadah regularly?

How do the people closest to you — family and old friends — describe you?

How do you handle criticism, especially from someone you love?

What are you actively working to improve about yourself right now?

How do you manage your anger — what does that look like in practice?

Have you ever sought therapy or counselling, and how do you feel about it?

What does personal growth look like in your vision of marriage?

Are there any past experiences — trauma, loss, difficult relationships — that still affect you today?

How honest are you with yourself about your own faults?

What is your relationship with social media and entertainment — how do you see this in a household?

How do you define success in life, beyond career and wealth?

How would you describe your relationship with your parents?

Do you expect to live with or near your parents after marriage?

How much influence do your parents have in your major life decisions today?

What financial obligations — if any — do you have toward your family?

What kind of relationship do you expect your spouse to have with your family?

What kind of relationship do you expect to have with your spouse's family?

Are there any significant family dynamics you anticipate could create challenges?

How are major decisions made in your family — who has authority?

How do you feel about maintaining regular contact with extended family?

Are there family members with special care needs that would affect your household?

What does a successful marriage look like to you — concretely, not abstractly?

Do you want to live independently after marriage, or near family?

In which city or country do you plan to settle, and how fixed is that?

How do you envision dividing household responsibilities?

How much personal time and space do you need, and how do you feel about your spouse having the same?

How do you feel about your spouse maintaining close friendships with people of the opposite gender?

What are your expectations around physical affection and intimacy?

How important is it to you that your spouse is ambitious in their career?

What does a typical weekend look like for you now, and how do you imagine it in marriage?

How do you handle differences in cultural background or upbringing?

What language or languages will you speak at home?

How do you plan to manage finances — joint, separate, or a combination?

Do you have any significant debts or financial obligations you should disclose?

What are your career aspirations, and how might they affect availability at home?

How do you feel about the wife continuing to work after marriage?

What is a fair and meaningful mahr in your view, and how do you understand its Islamic significance?

What does financial security mean to you, and how do you plan for it?

How do you handle financial disagreements or unexpected expenses?

What is your attitude toward savings, investment, and charity (zakat/sadaqah)?

Do you have a business, property, or inheritance situation your spouse should know about?

How will you budget for major life events — Hajj, children's education, housing?

Do you want children? How many, and on what timeline?

How would you describe your parenting philosophy?

How do you want to raise your children Islamically — what education, environment, values?

What language(s) do you want your children to grow up speaking?

How will childcare and parenting responsibilities be divided?

What if biological children are not possible — have you thought about adoption or other paths?

What type of schooling do you want for your children — Islamic school, state school, homeschool?

How do you feel about screen time and technology for children?

What Islamic milestones — Quran memorisation, aqiqah, umrah — are important to you?

How do you handle differences of opinion on parenting?

How do you typically handle conflict — do you address it immediately, need time, or tend to avoid it?

How do you feel about seeking help from an imam or a counsellor for marital difficulties?

What does a fair and meaningful apology look like to you?

How do you want decisions — especially major ones — to be made together?

Are there topics you find genuinely difficult to talk about, and why?

How do you handle it when you feel your needs aren't being met?

What does healthy disagreement look like to you — how should arguments resolve?

How important is it to you to be right in an argument?

How do you think social media and phones should be managed within a marriage?

What boundaries, if any, do you have around discussing marriage difficulties with friends or family?

How do you understand your rights and responsibilities as a spouse under Islamic guidance?

What is your view on polygamy — is it something you would consider or accept in principle?

Are there any conditions you would like to include in the nikah contract?

Has mahr been agreed, specified in writing, and clearly understood by both parties?

Is the wali involved and satisfied with the process?

Will you have a civil marriage registration in addition to the nikah?

How do you understand the wife's right to khul' (divorce initiated by the wife)?

Have you discussed what happens to shared assets if the marriage were to end?

Do you both understand your obligations under the Islamic marriage contract?

Have you performed istikhara and involved your families appropriately?

Are there any health conditions — physical or mental — that would be relevant to share with your future spouse?

How do you take care of your physical health, and how important is this to you?

How do you take care of your mental health?

What is your relationship with exercise, sleep, and diet?

Are there any dietary restrictions or preferences (beyond halal) your future spouse should know about?

How do you handle stress — what are your coping mechanisms?

Do you smoke, use tobacco products, or have any substance use history?

How do you approach healthcare decisions — do you prefer natural, conventional, or a combination?

What is your five-year vision for your life and your family?

Is performing Hajj together a goal, and on what timeline?

What legacy — Islamic, cultural, or family — do you want to build?

How do you want to contribute to your community as a family?

What does retirement look like for you, and where?

How do you want to be remembered by your children?

What is one thing you want to achieve together that you could not achieve alone?

How do you ensure your marriage remains a source of ibadah and closeness to Allah over the decades?